How to Find a Real Estate Mentor

Real estate mentor and mentee looking at an iPad together

As a new North Carolina real estate broker, you have been doing all of the “right” things to launch your career—networking, getting to know your market, working on your prospects list. Still, getting started in real estate can be challenging, especially in the first year or so. Finding an experienced and well-connected mentor could help you enhance your ability to launch a long, successful real estate career. Here are some tips on how mentoring works, as well as how to find a real estate mentor and cultivate a successful relationship.

How real estate mentoring works

Not everyone understands what mentoring is, or how to find a real estate mentor and develop a relationship with that person. Here are some common myths about mentoring:

  • Myth:  The mentee needs to wait until he or she is found by a mentor.
  • Myth:  Mentoring is all about the mentee.
  • Myth:  The mentor relationship is a one-way association.
  • Myth:  The mentee needs to go right out and ask for a mentor.
  • Myth:  The mentor will teach the mentee directly.

A real estate mentor is an adviser. He or she offers advice and feedback when it is needed. This is not an apprenticeship wherein you will learn a trade. Don’t look for a mentor hoping they will teach you everything you need to know to be successful. Instead, it is important to look for someone with whom to create a long-term relationship. You can’t be mentored in a few weeks or months; it is a process—not an internship. And it has to develop naturally.

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How to find a real estate mentor

The first step to mentorship is probably the toughest: finding a real estate mentor. You may know plenty of admirable, successful real estate professionals who could be prospective mentors. But how do you find the right mentor for you? And further, how do you get that person to want to help you?

You don’t want to look for someone who simply has the job you want, or the success you would like to attain. Find someone with whom you share similarities, someone with the skills and strengths you would like to hone. Don’t be in a hurry; it may take some time to find the right person, and to convince them to take on the role of mentor.

Successful North Carolina real estate broker Ryan Fitzgerald, owner of Raleigh Realty, is a huge proponent of harnessing the power of a mentor-mentee relationship. He also firmly believes in making the relationship a two-way street: “My suggestion is to start by giving back—ask them ‘how can I help you grow your business?’ Once you start helping them, they are going to be much more open to taking the time out of their day to help you.”

Let the relationship evolve naturally

Don’t force the mentoring relationship, but let it evolve. Keep your expectations in check. Like other relationships, it has to grow over time, based on mutual trust and respect. Forcing it risks ruining a potential mentoring relationship before it can become established. Take the time to nurture it.

Don’t go when the going gets tough

At some point, you are going to get some critical feedback from your real estate mentor. This is a good thing because it means the relationship has become comfortable enough for him or her to call you out on something.

Remember: Your reaction when that happens is crucial to your growth. Do your best to accept the criticism gracefully and heed your mentor’s advice. After all, your goal is to get better at being a North Carolina real estate broker—and nobody said it would be easy. This is what will ultimately make you grow as a real estate professional.

Commit to the mentor relationship

Mentoring takes real-time and real work, so once you make the commitment, stick with it. You and your mentor should both be in it for the long haul. Finding a real estate mentor, cultivating a strong mentor relationship, and adding it to your career strategy will help ensure that you have a long and successful real estate career.

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